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Me, Too

Trigger Warning: This post contains discussions on sexual assault.

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Unless you’ve been under a rock for the past few days, you’ve seen friends and family members posting “Me, Too” on their social media profiles. Sometimes, that’s all they post. Sometimes, they share more. Sometimes, they share it all.

#MeToo is a grassroots movement where victims of sexual harassment and abuse are coming forward and telling the world…this happened to me, too. You’re not alone. We’re not alone. In fact, look how not alone we are. The movement took off quickly, and the response was tremendous. Because the number of victims out there is tremendous.

If you have a few minutes free today, please scroll through the #MeToo on Twitter (here), and give your love and support to these strong souls. 

I’ve also shared my story more than a few times on social media, and on this blog, as a victim of childhood sexual abuse and as a rape victim during college. (You can read those blogs here). I don’t talk so often about sexual harassment because I just don’t have the time.

I don’t talk so often about sexual harassment because I just don’t have the time. I don’t even have the mental ability to hold all those instances in my brain. It’s so “regular,” so often, so…normal to pretend I didn’t hear the lewd discussions about my body when walking past a group of men, or didn’t feel the pinch on my ass, or didn’t notice that that man didn’t just “trip” on the metro, but rather purposefully groped my breast. So normal to pretend that removing my wedding ring for a job interview is normal, so the man interviewing me won’t think I’m leaving soon to go have kids. So normal to rush to my car at night quickly and lock the doors, my keys sticking out between my knuckles, because at any moment…I could be raped again. So normal to look the other way, to pretend that it’s not happening, to mentally paint a less frightening world for myself just to get through the day like every other woman out there.

Except, it’s not normal at all.

In a perfect world, this showing of hands will help people realize how prevalent it is and how much is needed to be done to change our current culture. So, that’s the question…what do we do next?

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What Comes After #MeToo?

That’s the big question. Okay, great, we all spoke up. How do we change it? It’s so overwhelming to even think about. That’s fair because it is. Rape culture wasn’t created overnight, and it won’t be solved overnight.

But, it can be solved in a generation.

We can resolve to teach our sons that consent is paramount above all else. We can teach our sons to step in and not look the other way when their friends are engaging in “locker room talk,” or worse. We can teach our daughters that their bodies our their own. They don’t have to hug their grandma if they don’t want to. Show respect, but make your own choices with your body. No one has to touch you. We can teach our daughters that they are more than their physical appearance, and they have more than that to offer future partners. And yes, men and boys can be victims, too.

We can elect role models who don’t grab women by the pussy. We can hire teachers and tutors and coaches who prioritize children’s safety. We can believe victims when they come forward. We can empathize and understand, instead of shame and silence. We can be the support for future victims that we never had for ourselves.

We can teach all of our children all of this, and then maybe, the rape culture we live in now won’t be around when our children come of age. Maybe our children will never have to say #MeToo…too. 


Do you have ideas for how our world can change and grow moving forward? Let’s discuss in the comments!

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SALE ALERT: Nudes is Only $0.99 This Week!

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For a limited time only, Nudes: A Hollywood Romance is only $0.99 on all retailers. Plus, the paperback is only $9.99! Don’t miss out on this amazing first time sale, and grab a copy today! You might have also seen it in Bookbub this morning! Eeks!

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Praised by #1 New York Times Bestselling Author Lauren Blakely, as “Passionate, emotional and uplifting!”, contemporary romance author Sarah Robinson brings readers a new standalone novel set in the glamorous hills of Hollywood and tackling challenging themes like the intersection of sexuality and female empowerment.

Ben Lawson is making a comeback…
After a few tabloid headlines, they think they know me. They don’t know a damn thing.  As CEO of a movie production company, I’ll show them who I really am when we hit it big at the box office. My ex thought her smear tactics would ruin me, but I’m unbreakable. Rising from the debris, I swore I’d never let a woman distract me like that again. But then, my leading actress walked on the set and changed everything.

Seductive, sexy, and unapologetic, Aria Rose could break me. I wanted to help her, protect her…love her. Instead, I destroyed her.

Aria Rose is baring it all….
I knew better. I knew not to trust another Hollywood heartthrob with a reputation like his. He was my boss and became my ruin. I should have stayed far away from him. Ben Lawson promised me the world. He even promised me his heart.

But he destroyed everything–my heart, my career, us.

“Passionate, emotional and uplifting!” – Lauren Blakely, #1 New York Times Bestselling Author

“Favorited on Twitter.” Yes, really. – Actor Chad Michael Murray

“This book is exactly what I needed – a perfect blend of sex, passion, glamour, and Hollywood. I loved it!” – Alessandra Torre, New York Times bestselling author of many award-winning novels, including Hollywood Dirt, soon to be a motion picture.

“Heartfelt, sensual, and unapologetic, this romance will have you gobbling the pages until the wrenching dark moment and happy-sighing at the swoon-worthy resolution.” – Kate Meader, USA Today Bestselling Author

“Robinson delivers sweet heat to the jaded town of Tinsel in NUDES, blending the relationship’s fun newness with family and friends while taking on a hot-button issue.” – Bestselling Author Jessica Lemmon

“Nudes is an intriguing adaptation of an epic love story with new age tribulations. A must-read for romance addicts!” – Bestselling Author Jennifer Foor

“A hot, sexy, and addictive romance with a message that needs to be heard. Just the kind of book I like!” – BJ Harvey, USA Today Bestselling Author

“Hot sex, a love story that tugged at my heart, and a socially conscious message that advocates for women everywhere.” – Kim Loraine, Author of the Golden Beach novels

“Steamy and sweet with just the right message! I LOVED this book.” – Elise Faber, Author

“I absolutely loved every single word. The chemistry between Ben and Aria was off the charts hot. A strong heroine is a rare thing to see, and I’m super glad Aria was a heroic one.” – Author J.L. Baldwin

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COVER & BLURB REVEAL: Bare, A Hollywood Romance

EXPOSED ON FEB 27, 2018

A seductive standalone follow-up to the hit Hollywood romance, NUDES by Sarah Robinson—praised by #1 New York Times Bestselling Author Lauren Blakely as “Passionate, emotional and uplifting!”—about the younger Reynolds sister whose career in film choreography strips her bare when she meets the man of her dreams…again.

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Reed Scott is the hottest actor in LA…
Being a Hollywood heartthrob has its perks, and I’ve damn sure enjoyed every one of them, both on and off the silver screen. The tabloids loved every second of exploiting my privacy, chronicling my mistakes in ink for the whole world to see. Accepting the lead role in a romantic dance film was guaranteed to make me a box office hit and help me rewrite my image…until the choreographer hired to train me turned out to be the only woman I’d ever loved and lost.

As beautiful and enticing as ever, Tegan walks in and reminds me of the worst mistake I’ve ever made. She should hate me, and now she has the power to destroy everything I am.

Tegan Reynolds is picking up the pieces…
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice…never going to happen. I fell in love with Reed Scott once and it nearly killed me—literally. The last thing I want to do now is teach him how to dance, but I need this job and there’s no way I’m letting him take yet another thing away from me.

Reed is in my world now, and this time we’re dancing by my rules.


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COVER REVEAL: Kavanagh Christmas (Kavanagh Legends, #5)

COMING NOVEMBER 7th, 2017

How GORGEOUS is the cover of the Kavanagh Legends holiday novella? Thank you to Cassy Roop at Pink Ink Designs for this masterpiece! I can’t think of a better way to say goodbye to this series I’ve loved so much then with this heartfelt holiday story.

The last book in the highly rated Kavanagh Legends series, Kavanagh Christmas, will go live on Tuesday, November 7th, 2017. This book will focus on all the Kavanagh siblings, and their significant others, plus give a glimpse into what lies ahead for the Kavanagh family!

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The heartfelt holiday conclusion to the Kavanagh Legends family saga revisits all the couples that readers have fallen in love with throughout the series. An angsty and loving Christmas novella, it’s the perfect goodbye to these Irish MMA fighters and a glimpse into what the future holds for them.

With the Christmas season fast approaching, the entire Kavanagh family is feeling anything but the holiday spirit. Commitments are questioned, relationships are tense, and bickering is nonstop.

However, when a crisis strikes and the family realizes that they might lose one of their own, they’ll come together to remember the reason for the season is first, and foremost, love and family.


PRAISE FOR KAVANAGH LEGENDS

 

“Fans of Lori Foster’s SBC Fighters series will love the MMA atmosphere of [Sarah] Robinson’s Legends.”—Library Journal

“This endearing story showcases Keira and Quinn’s easy banter, familiar warmth, and unquenchable heat.” – Publisher’s Weekly Starred Review, on Chasing a Legend

“One of my favorite MMA books to date.”—#1 New York Times bestselling author Rachel Van Dyken, on Breaking a Legend

“Those Kavanaghs really know how to make a girl swoon.”—New York Times bestselling author Katy Evans

“Saving a Legend is a gripping and sexy MMA romance with characters you’ll be rooting for long after you finish reading. Buckle your seatbelts and get ready for one amazing and hot story from Sarah Robinson.”—New York Times bestselling author Ilsa Madden-Mills, on Saving a Legend

“Raw, sexy, and romantic, Becoming a Legend is another perfect, steamy read about the heartwarming Kavanaghs.”—Kate Meader, author of the Hot in Chicago series, on Becoming a Legend


WHILE YOU WAIT…

In the meantime, read the first four books in the series, plus the free short story, here!

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My 4-Yr Anniversary as a Published Author!

 

Four years ago today, I published my very first novel. Her Forbidden Rockstar released with Hearts Collective, a small press publisher, and since then I’ve released with small presses, self-published, and signed with a Big 5 (Penguin Random House). I have more contracts and exciting news on the way that I haven’t even announced yet.

In these 4 years, I’ve published a total of 12 books (right? I can’t math.), and written several more to be published in the future. I’ve signed with my amazing agent, Nicole Resciniti at The Seymour Agency, and I’ve attended multiple writer’s conferences, book signings, book clubs and more. I’ve met in real life, and online, dozens of new friends in authors, bloggers, and readers.

I’m so honored to live this life, and it just goes to show that life can change so quickly. Before this, I was a therapist and burned out from 8 years of grad school and multiple graduate degrees. I felt no pull toward anything and had no idea what I wanted out of life. Until I decided to do something “irresponsible” and “crazy” and just write for a living. Now I make just as much a year as I ever did at a desk job, and it’s growing every year. Plus, I enjoy every moment of my life. It’s amazing.

Your dream is only a decision away. Go for it.

That’s what I did, and I’m so grateful that I did. In these last 4 years, I found my people. I found my home. Thank you for welcoming me with open arms.

I adore you all, and I’m never looking back. 

 

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Let’s Talk About Sex, (and) Babies!

Let’s Talk About Sex, (and) Babies!

Side Bar: This is not a pregnancy announcement. 😂

On September 20, 2017, my husband and I will have officially been together for 5 years! That’s the exact day we met, and that’s what we consider our anniversary. Why don’t we count our wedding? Well, we had two. It’s confusing. Neither one of us knows which to celebrate. So, instead, we celebrate the day we met because we basically considered ourselves married from day one. Seriously. We met, spent 3 solid days together, then moved in together two weeks later, engaged 6 months later, and then married…twice.

Sounds like a fairytale, right? WRONG.

I mean, it started like one. He was everything I didn’t know I wanted, and everything I knew I needed. We were young and head over heels in love, and he swept me off my feet with romance. We built a home together, adopted a few (or more than a few) fur babies, and settled into our lives as a couple.

It was goddamn perfect.

And then it wasn’t so perfect.

Adulthood hit with a fucking sledgehammer to the face.

The next 2-3 years were hell. First, our home burned down a few weeks before our wedding. FUN. Then, family caused a shit ton of drama surrounding the wedding plans, and that was fucking miserable. Then, our cars were totaled in two separate car accidents. Then, our insurance didn’t pay for fire damages and we had to move far away and to Murderville because we were practically bankrupted by the fire and the wedding and the cars and the irresponsibility of being 23 and not knowing how to handle money.

Did you think that was it? Oh, no. There’s more!

Next, my husband got ill and it took months and months to figure out what was wrong and how to get his illness under control with medications. Then, my husband basically lost his job due to said illness and was royally fucked over by his employers. Oh, and then our dog was accidentally poisoned and almost died, and our other dog was discovered to have cancer. During all of this, we suffered multiple miscarriages and went through failed fertility treatments (which seriously suck, by the way).  *sigh* 

Basically, what I’m trying to say is that life got shitty, and unfortunately, our relationship did, too. Neither one of us knew how to handle these stressors and tragedies, and instead of banding together and helping each other through it, we took out our pain on each other. There was so much fighting, lying, anger, selfishness, distrust, and a shit ton of other crappy behavior that seemed like it would be impossible to ever come back from. Our marriage quickly tanked, and divorce was discussed more than once.

Honestly, it fucking sucked.

I’ve never felt like more of a failure than I did at the end of 2016 when I realized I might actually be a divorcee soon. And it was the last thing I ever wanted–especially from Justin. He was, and is, perfect for me. I love him with all my heart. I always would. So why couldn’t it just work? Why was it so hard? This shouldn’t be happening.

The most difficult part was I felt unable to talk to anyone about it. I am a romance author. I sell love for a living! How could I tell people that I’m destroying my very own happily ever after? How can I sell happiness when I’m not?

On a personal level, I didn’t want to talk to friends or family about it very much. I didn’t want them to pick sides or to hate him. I didn’t want them to judge us for our failures, especially when some family has just been eagerly waiting for us to fail since day one. I carefully and cautiously picked and chose what I told to who, and who got to see into my life–though no one ever got the full picture.

I was hurting. Badly. My motherhood was ripped from me time and time again. My marriage was disintegrating. My career felt like a fraud. My friendships felt distant as I pushed them away.

I was so alone, and it was partially my own fault.

It was time to make some changes. I couldn’t keep living the way we were anymore. First, therapy. So. Much. Therapy. I began going every week on my own to a therapist, and Justin and I went every week to a marriage counselor. Honestly, it made everything worse. It fucking sucked. I’ve never worked so hard in my entire life.

But then it wasn’t worse. In fact, it was a lot better. It was actually kind of amazing.

That’s kind of what therapy does. It tears open the old wounds that never properly healed, slowly cleans them out while you’re screaming and writhing in pain and begging it to stop, then stitches it back together and allows you to heal for the first time ever.

I went on vacation by myself for the first time, healing my old wounds. Justin finally found what combination of medication he needed to manage his illness with minimal side effects. He also found a new job, one that actually fulfills him and lifts his spirits. Finally, we moved back to our favorite area and out of Murderville.

We learned to talk to one another again. To get out of our own ways, and stop holding our pains against one another. We slowly…so slowly…began to open up again, and come together. We began talking about the future again…believing we actually have a future.

We began to fall in love again, with each other and with ourselves.

Why am I telling you this long story? Well, it’s actually just the preamble. A year later, our relationship is still repairing and still learning, but we’re happy. We’re in love again. We know that after having gone through all of that divorce is no longer an option. We made it through the worst.

Now that we’ve done the work/are doing the work (because it’ll never really be over since we’ll always need to be working on our relationship in order to keep it healthy), we’re ready to begin trying for a family again. We both want to be parents. Hell, being a mother has been my dream since I was a little girl. I have no doubt in my mind that Justin would be an amazing father–so loving, kind, and a strong example of the type of man I’d want my future sons to be.

You know what that means? BABY MAKING TIME! 

Here’s the kicker, though. The moment we were finally able to have everything we wanted–a family–we realized we actually didn’t want that at all. At least, not yet. The truth is, we weren’t ready to be parents because we hadn’t just been a couple yet. We’d been together for almost 5 years, and yet we hadn’t really been able to enjoy that time as a young, married couple. We had spent so much time trying to keep it all together and make ends meet, that we hadn’t just stopped and enjoyed life!

But, don’t get me wrong, we still want to be parents. We just want to be us first. I mean, I’ll only be 28 years old on September 23rd–I HAVE TIME, GUYS. I’m still so young and vibrant. 😂 (Side note: You’re welcome to start buying birthday presents for me now, kthxbye!)

So, we hatched a plan! We made a pre-baby bucket list! It’s exactly what it sounds like–a fun list of things we want to do before we come parents. Honestly, I think we can get most of it done this fall and then start trying again for a baby in the spring, but we’re not putting any pressure on it right now.

Our list has 10 things to do together, and then 3 separate things for each of us. I’m super excited, and we’ve already got some things in the works!

Ready for our list? Read below!


The Robinson’s Pre-Baby Bucket List:
1) Visit another country (Trip to Iceland booked for November!)
2) Have an actual honeymoon (See Iceland plans above.)
3) Go to at least 3 comedy shows (Went to a Laurie Kilmartin stand-up show and Jon Lovitz stand-up show in September, and Kevin James stand-up in October! Also scheduled to see Trevor Noah and Joel McHale in November!)
4) Go to a concert together (Booked tickets to Pentatonix! And Sarah went to see Ed Sheeran!)
5) Spend an entire weekend in bed (So enjoyable)

6) Take a couple’s cooking class
7) Visit Chicago for a weekend
8) Go to Oktoberfest and wine festivals with friends, and drink all the booze, all the time(Done, and I’m still hungover.)
9) Take at least 2 day trips to new places on random road trips with no scheduling ahead of time (Took a day trip to an orchard, first down!)
10) Sell our children’s book series (See PJ Marsie)

 

Individual Pre-Baby Bucket Lists:
– Finish edits on the secret non-romance project and sell (Sarah)-
I really need to get on this.
– Sign a new book deal (Sarah)- Coming soon!
– Sell audio and/or print rights to my self-pub book(s) (Sarah)-Working on it!

– Skydiving (Justin)
Go to his first NFL game (Justin)
Done! Justin attended a Jets game on October 1st, and then a Ravens game on October 15th!
Drive an exotic car (Justin)

*Items crossed off means we’ve completed them!


All of this was probably way more information than you wanted to know about us, and I’ll probably get a few family members calling me up telling me to not air my dirty laundry (*eye roll*), but Justin and I are not afraid to live our lives publicly. And, yes, he read and approved all this before I posted it. Duh. 😂
(Side Note: Justin is currently in Texas bringing supplies to shelters and working with the Coast Guard and National Guard to help with Hurricane Harvey relief efforts. Totally voluntarily. I mean…how lucky am I to be that man’s wife? 😍 Pray for him down there, ya’ll.)

When I felt so alone last year, reading that other people were going through it too would have really helped me. So, I’m hoping by posting this, someone out there who may be struggling in their relationship will find some comfort. Our mistakes aren’t only ours. We’re not the only people to struggle with marriage or the possibility of parenthood.
You’re not alone, and neither am I.

❤️❤️❤️

Stay tuned on my Facebook (or Facebook page) and Instagram as we work through this list because I’m going to be posting all about it!  I’m going to need to need all your help and support with this, guys! Help hold us accountable for getting shit done! (Side note: What should my pre-baby bucket list hashtag be? It’s gotta be quirky and unique! Give me suggestions in the comments!)
Let’s get crazy and make bad decisions together! 

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NEW RELEASE: Chasing a Legend (Kavanagh Legends, #4)

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“This endearing story showcases Keira and Quinn’s easy banter, familiar warmth, and unquenchable heat.” – Publisher’s Weekly
[See the full PW review here] 

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The most soulful Kavanagh brother tackles the challenge of a lifetime—with a little help from the girl of his dreams.
 
“Fans of Lori Foster’s SBC Fighters series will love the MMA atmosphere of [Sarah] Robinson’s Legends.”—Library Journal

A topnotch manager and agent, Quinn Kavanagh pictures a life outside of his family’s renowned MMA gym. Beneath his sleek exterior, Quinn has a secret passion for sculpting. But after a nearly fatal motorcycle accident, he’s struggling just to walk again, let alone get back to the studio—and it doesn’t help that the doctor in charge of his physical therapy is his childhood crush. Quinn’s always ready for a fight, but the bittersweet sting of unrequited love has him begging for mercy.

Dr. Kiera Finley is determined to make her medical residency a success. Six years ago, she gave in and shared a single passionate night with Quinn. Now she’s just hoping the cocky lover from her past doesn’t derail her plans for the future. Little by little, though, Kiera gets to know another side of Quinn. She knew he was a family man, devoted to his parents and brothers, but he’s also a free spirit trapped in a cage—and only she has the key. To heal both Quinn’s body and soul, Kiera’s tempted to give him a special kind of medicine.

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My Very First Starred Review in Publisher’s Weekly!

There’s no point in faking it, so I’m just going to be honest. I have ZERO chill right now. ZERO. Z.E.R.O! Why? *takes deep breath*

I just found out I received a STARRED REVIEW from Publisher’s Weekly for Chasing a Legend (which releases Aug 22!). 

Some of you are probably like…so what? What does that even mean?? Well, Publisher’s Weekly is a well respected, long looked to source of book reviews. People have used it for decades to tell them what’s worth reading, and what’s…not. A starred review is the highest form of praise from PW and so I’m unbelievably thrilled. It also makes complete sense that it would be for Quinn’s book. 😉

Read the entire review below (or here!)! 

 Chasing a Legend: Kavanagh Legends, Book 4

Sarah Robinson. Loveswept, $4.99 e-book (250p) ISBN 978-1-101-96883-3

Robinson concludes her Kavanagh Legends contemporary quartet (after Becoming a Legend) with a perfect blend of smoldering heat and gentle tenderness. After an accident, mixed martial arts fighter Quinn Kavanagh is placed under the care of physical therapist Keira Finley, his first and only love. She has no idea that she broke his heart when she left for college six years earlier. They’d been best friends since they were kids and never experienced life without each other’s unwavering support, but when Quinn didn’t ask her to stay, Keira needed to prove to herself that she could make it on her own. Quinn’s emotional scars run a lot deeper than the physical ones. He’s afraid to open himself up to Keira again, but with the encouragement of his boisterous, fun-loving family, he learns to give to himself as freely as he’s always given to others. This endearing story showcases Keira and Quinn’s easy banter, familiar warmth, and unquenchable heat. Quinn is the last Kavanagh brother to meet his mate, but subtle mentions of potential future love matches among their friends will leave readers eager for spin-offs. Agent: Nichole Resciniti, Seymour Agency. (Aug.)

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When The Bachelor Teaches Us Why Women Don’t Report

*Trigger Warning: I’m about to rant about sexual assault and victim blaming because I have no fucks left to give.*

Here’s the Back Story: In the last few days, the news has come out that the “reality” television show, Bachelor in Paradise, has been cancelled due to allegations of sexual assault while filming (read more here and here). Long story short, a female contestant was filmed “hooking up” with another contestant while extremely drunk and consent was no longer possible. Producers allowed it to continue, rather than stepping in, and now the show is being sued and cancelled.


Sexual assault and/or rape is one of the only types of crime where the victim’s past personal history gets to be part of the decision on whether there was/wasn’t a crime committed.

“Well, she’s always been a slut. It’s not like this happening is surprising.”

“She was an attention seeker, so this is probably what she wanted. I’m sure it’s all a ploy for fame and money.”

“She was drinking, and we all know her reputation. What did she expect?”

“She had a boyfriend and went on a dating show, so who’s really to blame here? She should have known better.”

The things I’m seeing online today (literally quotes above are from Twitter ) about Corinne’s assault on #BachelorinParadise are literally disgusting. Absolutely has my stomach turning, and I am NOT okay with any of it. In fact, I’m completely raging over it and probably gone off on a million people today over it.

Worst yet, I work with sexual abuse victims a lot and have gotten half a dozen messages today from people thanking me for saying something because they’ve been victims in the past and this entire ordeal is unbelievably triggering for them.

Honestly, it is for me, too.

Is she still talking to the man who assaulted her? Probably. Being assaulted while you’re both drunk is emotionally fucking confusing and it can take a lifetime to figure out where to place blame in your mind.

Is she suing the show? Fuck yes. The producer’s promised to protect her and then watched her be assaulted on camera.

Does she have a history of promiscuity and dramatic behavior? Who cares. Irrelevant. Next.

So, you think she did this for fame and money? YEAH, BECAUSE BEING A VICTIM OF SEXUAL ASSAULT HAS EVER WORKED OUT TO BENEFIT THE VICTIM IN THE PUBLIC’S EYE. EVER. What the hell are you smoking?

Did she have a boyfriend before going on a dating show? Maybe, but again, who cares? That’s for her and her boyfriend to figure out, and you’re lying to yourself if you think producers weren’t full aware and just wanted her on for ratings anyway.

Are her castmates now unfollowing her on social media, so she must be a liar because otherwise they’d be speaking out on her behalf? Are. 👏 You.👏 Kidding.👏 Me.👏 With.👏This. 👏 Shit. 👏  Her castmates lost a big payday and are blaming the woman who spoke up and “caused” it. Big shock–people aren’t supporting an assault victim. It’s disgusting, but it in no way reflects on the victim, but rather on the castmates for being vile.

I don’t give A FLYING FUCK whether she’s been promiscuous in the past, whether she was blackout drunk, whether she was making good choices, blah blah blah.

When a woman is sexually assaulted, it’s a damn shame that the public’s first reaction is to blame her.

What’s happening on social media today is exactly why so many women (and men!) choose not to report sexual assault.

For fuck’s sake. Be better, people.

#EndRant #VictimBlamingIsSo2007 #OverThisShit
#ThrowsMicrophoneatChrisHarrisonsStupidFace #FuckThisFranchise#BIP 

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NEW RELEASE: Nudes is Exposed to the World

NOW EXPOSED

Nudes: A Hollywood Romance by Sarah Robinson is now live!

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Praised by #1 New York Times Bestselling Author Lauren Blakely, as “Passionate, emotional and uplifting!”, contemporary romance author Sarah Robinson brings readers a new standalone novel set in the glamorous hills of Hollywood and tackling challenging themes like the intersection of sexuality and female empowerment.

Ben Lawson is making a comeback…
After a few tabloid headlines, they think they know me. They don’t know a damn thing.  As CEO of a movie production company, I’ll show them who I really am when we hit it big at the box office. My ex thought her smear tactics would ruin me, but I’m unbreakable. Rising from the debris, I swore I’d never let a woman distract me like that again. But then, my leading actress walked on the set and changed everything.

Seductive, sexy, and unapologetic, Aria Rose could break me. I wanted to help her, protect her…love her. Instead, I destroyed her.

Aria Rose is baring it all….
I knew better. I knew not to trust another Hollywood heartthrob with a reputation like his. He was my boss and became my ruin. I should have stayed far away from him. Ben Lawson promised me the world. He even promised me his heart.

But he destroyed everything–my heart, my career, us.

“Passionate, emotional and uplifting!” – Lauren Blakely, #1 New York Times Bestselling Author

“Favorited on Twitter.” Yes, really. – Actor Chad Michael Murray

“This book is exactly what I needed – a perfect blend of sex, passion, glamour, and Hollywood. I loved it!” – Alessandra Torre, New York Times bestselling author of many award-winning novels, including Hollywood Dirt, soon to be a motion picture.

“Heartfelt, sensual, and unapologetic, this romance will have you gobbling the pages until the wrenching dark moment and happy-sighing at the swoon-worthy resolution.” – Kate Meader, USA Today Bestselling Author

“Robinson delivers sweet heat to the jaded town of Tinsel in NUDES, blending the relationship’s fun newness with family and friends while taking on a hot-button issue.” – Bestselling Author Jessica Lemmon

“Nudes is an intriguing adaptation of an epic love story with new age tribulations. A must-read for romance addicts!” – Bestselling Author Jennifer Foor

“A hot, sexy, and addictive romance with a message that needs to be heard. Just the kind of book I like!” – BJ Harvey, USA Today Bestselling Author

“Hot sex, a love story that tugged at my heart, and a socially conscious message that advocates for women everywhere.” – Kim Loraine, Author of the Golden Beach novels

“Steamy and sweet with just the right message! I LOVED this book.” – Elise Faber, Author

“I absolutely loved every single word. The chemistry between Ben and Aria was off the charts hot. A strong heroine is a rare thing to see, and I’m super glad Aria was a heroic one.” – Author J.L. Baldwin

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